Thursday, October 9, 2014

How my life changed with children

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How my life changed with children

When I was young, I did not  have any obligations. I had no worries about what was coming next or tomorrow. My life was easy from that point of view. I was committed to enjoying life with no stress or pressure. I had the freedom of being me and to do what I liked to do. I spent more time with my friends. I never scheduled when I hung out with my friends and family. I was untouchably free. I was in my best shape physically and mentally. I met my husband at the time. We both were young and beautiful.







 









After two years of seeing each other, we got married. Then shortly after, I had my first child “Dora”. She was beautiful, she looked like an angel. Progressively my life started to change. I couldn’t sleep at night. She was mostly awake at night. It didn’t matter what time I went to bed or the amount of sleep I had, I was the last one to sleep and the first to wake up in the morning with constant breaks in between in order to quiet my daughter who was crying for food.

 The responsibilities were enormous. And after about three years, my son was born. His name is Daylin. My entire life radically changed. But in the best possible way I could have imagined. I was blessed with two healthy children. I was a full-time mother and wife. I spent almost all my time cleaning, doing laundry, preparing food, and a lot more. Despite the fatigue and the stress that brought, I was nonetheless happy. I felt so complete when I accompanied Dora to her extra-curricular activities such as dance, gymnastic and piano classes. And when Daylin was playing soccer or the drums, my joy always took over my fatigue.
 
Being a mother and wife is challenging. I have barely enough time left for me personally. Sometimes I even forget about my own life. I have to take care of their basic physical and emotional needs and spend quality time with them. Nonetheless, whatever the sacrifice, it is worth it for it takes all that and even more to be a great mother and wife.  My focus now is so on their well-being that each of my children’s needs becomes my priority. I didn’t know having children required so much.
 
Now I’m adapting and coping with everything. It is still an evolving process as I am redefining myself and re-adjust my priorities on a daily basis. Having children is both exciting and challenging. It’s a lifetime commitment. I have to be there for them for all seasons and every occasion. It is a heavy yet fulfilling responsibility.
 
Now Dora is nine years old. She is in fifth grade. Daylin is seven years old, he is in second grade. I thank God every day for blessing my husband and me with two children. They are our treasures; our best gifts from heaven and they are irreplaceable. I pray more for them than myself. I hope one day they understand the sacrifices I endured for them so they can do the same for their own children when the time comes.